“Baby got back” may be the title of a song, as is “And I love big butts and I cannot lie” And if you ever see these music videos all you need to do is mute the sound and you would think that they are advertising Jello Pudding (based on all the jiggling going on). There are indeed men out there who love, I mean LOVE a big rear end on a woman. So much so that they have to break out their bibs to catch their own drool when they see one.
If you’re one of the lucky ones to have a big apple butt and your man is all giddy about it, you’ve hit the jack pot. One of JLo’s favorite body part is her rear asset and she makes sure that her trainer gives her exercises that keep it that way. So one can look at all this as a big plus, an added benefit so to speak, but what if you’re overweight and it just is too big indeed and your man is turned off by it?
If you’re man is not happy about your weight gain and it shows especially in those areas that are considered “high feminine” area such as our curvy waste lines, butt and chest area, what can you do? Is your g-string still visible when you give a performance or is the skimpy fabric covered over by the excess sausages around your waist? You’re okay as long as you can still see your underwear and so can your partner, but it may be time to giddy up and do something if finding your underwear requires a treasure map to find it and dig it up.
Honestly now, what others think of us is really none of our business. Especially since relying on others for feedback about whether or not we should feel happy about ourselves is pretty superficial. What is important is how we feel about ourselves that determines what type of show we put on for our man in the bedroom, don’t you agree? If you just asked yourself: “what show?” then you’ll love the tips below. Beauty is always relative to the person who decides what beauty really means to them. Since we look in the mirror and the only person we’ll ever see in there is us, it is super important to feel good about ourselves.
The other challenge is that the other person’s facial expressions change as soon as they see us naked. His face either reflects pleasure and turn-on (besides many other drool-causing emotions) or disappointment and let-down. We then pick up his facial expressions, which is information we use to formulate how we want to react and feel about what just happened on that man’s face when he saw you naked.
Billions are spent in staying youthful and even more billions are spent in chemical research on how to prolong beauty; our internal qualities that make us who we are cannot be bought and no cream or pill will change the fabric of our soul. What we can focus on right now are the qualities of our souls, because those are enduring and here to stay.
The following tips may help in strengthening the powerhouse of a woman you already are:
1. No matter how unattractive you feel because of your weight, do nice things for yourself first because those things help you start feeling better about yourself. 2. Start wearing matching underwear and bra, even if no one will see it, you will know it. 3. Light a candle for yourself when you eat (by yourself) or when you take a bubble bath or just read a book. 4. Get a pedicure even if it’s winter time and no one can see it. You see it every day and that’s all that matters. 5. Let go of feelings of jealousy about skinnier women and be at peace and know that nothing can take your divine place and no one can steal your man from you if he’s truly your man.
Nothing that truly belongs to you can be taken away from you, so the spending energy being jealous about another woman is spent in complete vain. Remember that there is no such thing as competition, if you are with the right person, he’ll love you and will have eyes for you only, no matter what you look like. If you let yourself go and gain weight, he is hurting not because you’re fat or out of shape, but he’s hurting because he sees how your confidence has been robbed and because he sees that you’re unhappy. No man can make you happy because happiness is a state of being, not a state of having. All he wants to see is you happy within your own skin.
PS: If that does not describe your partner and he indeed threatens you with “lose the weight or I’m out” then he’s doing you an amazing favor in the long run. Let him go in peace so he can chase after the outside beauty while you get yourself ready for the man you truly deserve!
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